I Can't Believe I Almost Missed Halloween

I decided around 7pm tonight that being newly single and sober doesn’t mean I should pretend my favorite holiday isn’t happening this year. 😕

I LOVE Halloween!! Truly it’s been my favorite holiday since childhood.

So I threw together a last minute costume and went by myself to a bar*, to watch a band play and check out other people’s costumes.

I sipped two Phony Negronis (which were quite good btw!) while enjoying the live music. I stayed for just a bit and then drove myself home, feeling empowered and proud.

Not proud because I didn’t drink (well that too, but that has gotten very easy) ..but because I showed up for myself tonight and did something brave—when I could have just stayed home and felt disappointed.

I can’t believe I almost missed my favorite holiday for the silliest reasons!

Why am I sharing this?

Because I don’t want you to let circumstance hold you back from doing the little things in life that you enjoy. Life is too short!

I love live music, and I love Halloween. I don’t need a boyfriend or a fermented beverage to give me permission to participate. Fuck that!

I just needed myself, the right mindset, and the perfect red lipstick. 💄

What are you dressing up as this year?

Please stay safe this weekend everyone 🎃 🍭
Rooting for you always & Happy Halloween!

💋 Gwen (aka Gretchen)

*If you are new in your sobriety or just feeling unsure, please do not put yourself in triggering situations. I recognize that going to a bar alone could turn out badly for someone with a history of alcohol use disorder. Especially on a drinking-centric holiday. If I hadn’t been 100% certain I wouldn’t drink, I would not have gone. It is totally OK to pass on things, even if that means having FOMO, if it’s in your best interest. Just because something works for me, doesn’t mean it’s right for you. Sobriety is not one size fits all.